Let me explain to you my version of what childhood emotional neglect in adults raised by a narcissistic parent actually feels like.

Some “experts” are saying we have this imaginary idea of what it means to be happy and that we somehow have these required expectations. If these expectations are not met it inevitably keeps us from being happy.

This is not even close to what really going on and since everyone else is sharing their opinion I decided I should too.

 

People who suffer from Child Emotional Neglect don’t have expectations at all.

We don’t even expect or demand common decency. We had no options as children, we couldn’t escape or take interviews to be part of a better family. There was no way out and that teaches us learned hopelessness and learned helplessness.

As an adult, we don’t realize this is not true anymore.

Our needs were never met as children and because of that, we grow up thinking our needs can’t or won’t be met and therefore we believe that getting our needs met is not available. That was true then and the mind continues to believe it’s true because now that belief was created and reinforced for decades.

It isn’t that we have over the top expectations. We simply don’t have a baseline of what our expectations should be. It’s like being flung around by the wind and desperately searching for a place to land that will hold you and protect you.

It is incredibly confusing because we’ve been gaslighted, manipulated, lied to, deceived, and then blamed for all of it. We have an implanted belief that we are not whole. You were not born with this belief and you did not put it there.

 

Sometimes what’s worse than the abuse is when the abuse is erased.

You’re told what you’re seeing, hearing, and experiencing is wrong, you misunderstand, that’s not what happened, it’s you and your crazy mental problems, you’re delusional and unstable.

When this goes on for years and years your subconscious mind starts to believe that you must be the problem. This plus the entire family sides with the abuser.

We don’t believe that we are lovable, that we are enough, that we matter, or that we belong. If you’re reading this post and you understand what I’m saying then these four things are core issues and root causes of the struggles you’re having in life and it can be fixed.

 

Many of the articles about childhood emotional neglect in adults are terrible.

So much information online is outdated it’s a disaster, and then people who really need answers and could really use the help feel even more beaten down because no one has a solution that actually works.

When I read this crap, I can FEEL my skin burning… I’m melting for sure…

Don’t buy into this shit, it’s NOT TRUE.

They don’t understand because they’ve never had the experience, but I have and I do understand. There are old beliefs and methods that are so outdated and last century it’s actually doing more harm than anything else.

It’s been proven that talking about trauma doesn’t help you get past it, it keeps the trauma at the front of your mind at all times.

You may see this as only my opinion but in my mind, it’s a fact. The old ways of thinking and treatment plans are not only awful and expensive, but 99% of them are proven to have no lasting change or real results. 

 

The leading experts for childhood emotional neglect in adults know what I’m saying is true.

You need to be looking for the newest most groundbreaking information because what was true twenty years ago is not true now. And if you’re trying to heal from narcissistic abuse the old way you’re just wasting your time and money because it doesn’t work. I know because I tried.

In order to get your needs met, you have to know what they are. For a child there are five main needs that need to be met:

  1. To feel safe
  2. To feel protected
  3. To be taken care of
  4. To be loved
  5. To feel significant

When these needs are not met on a daily basis you will experience some form of Child Emotional Neglect.

It is a safe bet to tell you that all parents screw up their kids. It’s only a matter of to what degree.

If you’re reading this blog the degree of emotional neglect is usually abnormally high and it can be so bad it becomes a form of an emotional disability. At least, that’s how it felt for me.

It felt disabling to a degree that some days it was almost impossible to function, especially in early adulthood after being raised with absolutely zero healthy coping skills.

 

You start researching your symptoms and eventually, you find your way to narcissistic abuse.

Then everyone screams no contact as if it’s the only option you have and yet again reinforces the learned helplessness and learned hopelessness of your situation.

And during all of this, you’re dealing with the rules of society telling you you’re a bad person because all mothers are wonderful. And then you find people like me saying you’re not a bad person and your mother isn’t wonderful. You are more confused than ever before and your life has been completely turned upside but upside down is right-side up.

If you’re experiencing symptoms of (CEN) Child Emotional Neglect as an adult it feels like this wave of paralyzing sadness mixed with many other emotions that are impossible to describe. This is what learned hopelessness and learned helplessness FEELS like.

If you know the emotion I’m describing here then you are in the right place.

And as someone who has and is healing from this, you should know many people out there unconsciously choose to stay unwell, they don’t know how else to be, and not only that they want you to stay unwell with them. You already know misery loves company.

Those are not my people, I’m looking for real answers and you’ll be happy to know I found one and I’m going to share it with you.

 

Let’s finish the progression of childhood emotional neglect in adults.

You realize you were raised by a narcissistic mother or father and feel obsessively compelled to find more answers.

Next, everyone is going on and on about how you need to set boundaries and get your needs met.

If you’re like me when I began this journey I didn’t even have a definition for the word boundaries and I had no idea what that meant. People have needs? Since when? Boundaries? I was not made aware of any such thing.

So to say that we have unrealistic expectations for love and happiness is incorrect. We have no idea what we’re doing. I was completely unaware and totally confused. Not to mention the fact that our whole lives we’ve been taught that love and happiness are gained from outside sources.

Everything you’ve been taught is literally and completely backward. Love and happiness comes from the inside, not the outside, which is the only way a narcissist can get the “supply” they so desperately need because they are unable and incapable of manifesting it on the inside.

In hindsight, you see that you were raised by someone who is emotionally disabled but for you, it’s a learned behavior and that means you can unlearn it.

 

I use (RTT) Rapid Transformational Therapy, and you can undo and unlearn it in as little as one to three sessions.

Will this session cost you $200 to $500? 

Yes, unless you join my email list where I’ll be offering free sessions and free group sessions or check my homepage to see if free sessions are still available. 

I guarantee you’re going to spend ten times that amount trying to heal from narcissistic abuse using ineffective methods and all of it will be a complete waste of your time and money. One ninety-minute RTT session equals ten years of traditional weekly therapy.

It takes 6,000 dollars to get the certification and hypnotherapists are also required to pay for general and liability insurance. RTT works and my prices will continue to go up based on availability so there isn’t a better time for you than right now to get your personal session.

I promote very few things on this blog because I’ve been experimenting with all different types of healing, meditation, even generic self-hypnosis which is the only one that gave me significant results.

I was very familiar with self-hypnosis before I found RTT. After RTT these other healing methods are like playing with other children’s toys. A personal Rapid Transformational Hypnotherapy session is at least one hundred levels up from anything you’ve ever experienced.

If you’re still super skeptical about this then take Marisa Peer’s free masterclass for Uncompromised Life and that one hour will change your life forever. And it’s free, then when you’re convinced you come back and get your personal session from me.

 

Final thoughts…

Uncompromised Life is another real and effective option for you.

It’s an eight week pre-recorded hypnosis program and even though it’s absolutely phenomenal and helped me in ways I didn’t know it could, having a personal session transformed the way I was feeling inside permanently.

Most of these other healing methods will last a few days or weeks and then it wears off and you’re right back where you started. This doesn’t happen with RTT, it fixes the core issue(s) and unravels the root cause(s) that are deeply embedded in your subconscious and the only way to access your subconscious mind is through hypnosis.

If your issues are like my former issues then it can’t be fixed on a conscious level, and when you try, it takes more than a few years to achieve okay results if any. Not only that but when you’re doing this on a conscious level it’s always one step forward and three steps back.

No one has time for that.

I don’t need more failures, more opportunities to feel helpless, and hopeless, and I don’t have more years to waste not getting better.

Thank you for reading my thoughts and opinions. My readers have been very good to me and in return, I want to give you awesome recommendations to help you do more than just get through the day.

RTT lets you go inside to find the parts of yourself that are stuck or trapped in the past and then it brings all those parts of yourself you thought you lost to a fully present future. Then you’re not stuck or trapped anymore and it will prove to you that you’re a whole person. You are intact and you absolutely belong right here, right now.

You can’t put a price on that. I paid a lot more than you will for this information and experience and it was worth so much more and then some.