Trying to heal from narcissistic abuse by talking and journaling doesn’t work. How do I know that? Because I’ve written this entire blog trying to heal from narcissist abuse, I’ve journaled, I’ve talked about it all day long every day, and I tried that for years.

The reason it doesn’t work is because you can’t sort this out on a conscious level. The harder you try to sort it out with your conscious mind, the less it works. What I’ve come to understand as an RTT Hypnotherapist is that my narcissistic mother is a fool. She’s always been a fool, and she’s a disaster of a human being.


Narcissistic mothers don’t see their children a little living, breathing human beings.

They see them as objects and tools they can use to further whatever their twisted agenda may be.

Narcissistic mothers don’t understand this one very true fact. We don’t come from our parents; we come through them. We are sent here from the universe, and a mother’s womb is the vessel.

So if this vessel is broken and damaged beyond repair, you don’t stick around trying to fix it. You crashed landed here for a reason, and it’s not to fix a used up broken vessel. It’s not your job or your duty to fix her. You didn’t create the vessel, and you didn’t break it, so how could you possibly fix it?

I know she loves to blame you and make it your fault that she is broken, but someone damaged her long before you were sent to this world.

You were sent here to even the score, and I’ve found a way for you to do just that.


I tried journaling to heal from narcissistic abuse but I still wasn’t able to sort it all out.

A narcissistic mother takes a perfect, lovable, joyful child and tries to recreate a being she doesn’t understand in her own perversely twisted and flawed image.

You were sent here as a perfect little being, and she does everything in her power to corrupt and destroy that.

The audacity is what’s astonishing.

The narcissistic mother doesn’t see her children as a gift from above; she sees them as property; she sees them as objects. Her wish is to create a human being just like herself, and unfortunately for her, that’s not how the universe works. There are no copies. Trying to make your child just like you is the ultimate mistake, and it never works.

She’s a fool, and she will die that way.


Talking about narcissistic abuse doesn’t work.

What she’s done is implanted all these negative feelings you have about yourself deep into your subconscious. The more you try to come to terms with it on a conscious level, the more the subconscious becomes less engaged.

The subconscious mind controls 95% of all actions and behaviors, so now you begin to understand why this can’t be fixed on a conscious level. The conscious mind has very little to do with what you’re experiencing.

Being abused by a narcissistic parent leaves imprints on the subconscious mind that forms and controls all the beliefs you have about yourself. When I got into life coaching, it was a great experience, and I’m glad I have the credentials, but I quickly realized it wasn’t enough.

Life coaching takes a really long time; traditional therapy takes a really long time because it’s all being done on a conscious level.

By ‘really long time,’ I mean four to seven years. If you’re like me, then you’ve already tried some of these things. I’ve been trying to heal from narcissistic abuse my entire adult life. That’s over twenty years of searching for answers and the first fifteen years don’t even count because I had no idea what I was trying to heal from.

Then (because the universe is with me), I found Marisa Peer. She is the creator of (RTT) Rapid Transformational Therapy using hypnosis. 


What is the definition of RTT? 

Rapid Transformational Therapy- a powerful hybrid method that gets to the root cause of why we may feel stuck. It is a method that combines the most effective techniques from NLP, CBT, hypnotherapy, and psychotherapy with the ability to transform lives powerfully and permanently. During a session, we uncover the negative meaning/interpretation of (self beliefs) from previous life events and then change that meaning/interpretation (self beliefs) to ones that are positive and empowering. A personalized recording is created to rewire the subconscious mind for fast, effective, and long term change.

Marisa is absolutely brilliant. I don’t know how she did it, but after more than thirty years of experience, she decided to share her work and train a special collective of men and women to carry on her work.

And I’m thrilled to tell you that I have been accepted into this group. At the time of writing this, I’m about a month away from being certified as a practitioner. Until then, I’m qualified to give away free practice sessions, so please join my email list, so I have a way to connect with you.

How did I get accepted into the RTT program?

I told her I wanted to help people like me. Adults raised by narcissistic parents and she has opened all the doors for me because the one thing that makes a great therapist or practitioner of any kind is personal experience with pain and suffering.

Same as with addiction, anxiety, or weight loss, you don’t go to someone who’s never had these issues. How would they know how to help?

You should never take advice from someone who’s never done what you’re trying to do.

For example, going to a medical doctor for emotional issues will not help you solve the pain, it can mask it, but it’s still there. Now you’re hooked on medication for the rest of your life because a band-aid is better than nothing when you’re bleeding all over the place.

However, when you’re dealing with a mother wound, a band-aid is a temporary reprieve and nothing more. It always comes back; it won’t be ignored. 

Because of this, I was, of course, skeptical, but again I’ll try anything to see if it works. RTT works; it’s a permanent fix because once the mind understands something, it can never go back to its previous state.


Life coaching and RTT together is a life-changing combination.

It’s a permanent change, and the RTT cuts the life coaching down to a few sessions vs. a year minimum. 

After two RTT sessions, my insomnia was gone. I woke up one day and realized how well I was sleeping. I have zero sleep issues now; I sleep all through the night and make no mistake, insomnia is a sign of a very disturbed mind.

I had a very disturbed mind, and I spent those late nights building this blog. I don’t write as often anymore because my mind is no longer disturbed.

The self-doubt you’re experiencing every single day of your existence, the constant questioning of every decision you make… gone after one session.

I could not shake that self-doubt to save my soul. It was embedded in me and in my life like an emotional disability.

It’s gone, and I want to help you feel the same way. I want to help your mind go from “my mother doesn’t love me” to “my mother can’t love me, and I understand now.” I want to help you believe in yourself and love yourself in a way your narcissist mother will never understand.


This article made me so mad today…

I read another article telling people like you and me that we will always have the self-doubt and we will forever until death second guess every thought or decision we make. THE THEY’S ARE DEAD WRONG.

Do not buy into this crap, do not believe that whatever symptoms you’re experiencing from narcissistic abuse can’t be fixed. There are answers out there, there are way more resources and some really smart people who have already figured it out.

RTT helped me, my friends, my husband, and my kids, and they were only doing it to play along. They did not expect it to work, but everyone is sleeping better. I even helped my husband quit smoking and it was my first time ever hypnotizing someone.

It works even if you’re bad at it! You have to experience this to understand how powerful and effective it is.


You’re probably wondering why we can’t use RTT on a narcissist?

Well, Marisa’s method does have a 95% success rate, but she doesn’t work with narcissists or schizophrenics. Narcissists don’t think there’s anything wrong with them, and they don’t want a deeper understanding. Some people are two-pint people, and people like us are ten-gallon people. There’s no depth to a two-pint person.

And yes, I know the saying is a ten-pint and ten-gallon person, but when you’re dealing with a narcissist, two pints is generous.

If you’ve been abused by a narcissist parent, I am living proof that RTT works. It is the answer we’ve been looking for, and it is a permanent lifelong cure for the symptoms of narcissistic abuse.

Please join my email list so I can get in touch with you; send me a note that says you’re interested, and you want to be added to my list for a free RTT session. In return, I ask for a testimonial and that you will tell all your friends because word of mouth is still the best way to build a practice with paying clients.

I hope this post helps point you in the right direction and you will consider using any type of self-hypnosis to help you sort out your subconscious.


Trying to heal from narcissistic abuse with your conscious mind will drive you mad.

I feel like I’ve gone insane at least twice trying to figure this out because it makes no sense on a conscious level.

I just couldn’t get there, I kept running into mental blocks, and some unexplainable force would sabotage me at every turn.

There are tons of free self-hypnosis guides on YouTube. They can’t help you get to the core issues and root cause like RTT can in a personal session, but they do help. Glen Harrold is one of my favorite self-hypnosis guides, the recordings are generic and designed for everyone, but they’re high quality, and it will help ease your mind and relax your body.

There is a cure for the symptoms of narcissistic abuse, and after reading this, you are one step closer to finding the answers and solutions you’re looking for… and yes, the answers are all in your head, you just have to know how to access them.


What else did RTT do for me?

Because of RTT know I know I’m whole and it turns out I was always whole to begin with. I got confused but I understand now that I was never broken. I thought I was broken but it turns out I’m not. Rapid Transformational Therapy is the power of understanding, your subconscious mind records everything that’s ever happened to you in your life and hypnosis is the only way to access it. This is the 21st Century kind of information so do yourself a favor and whatever you’re doing trying to help yourself heal STOP.

Find Uncompromised Life online with Marisa Peer, get yourself a session with an RTT practitioner, and STOP wasting your money on other less effective methods. You’re going to love me for this.