Introducing a new way to heal from narcissistic abuse and other emotional issues.
Trying to heal from emotional issues by talking and journaling doesn’t work. How do I know that? Because I’ve written this entire blog trying to heal from narcissist abuse. I’ve journaled, I’ve talked about it all day long, every day, and I tried that for years. Talking is necessary and does help to a point, but then you’re still stuck. And there’s nowhere else to go with it.
You have an idea of what it is and a definition of what happened to you, but it doesn’t heal the wounds.
The reason talking doesn’t work is because you can’t sort this out on a conscious level. The harder you try to sort it out with your conscious mind, the less it works. What I’ve come to understand as an RTT Hypnotherapist is that my narcissistic mother is a disaster of a human being, and that meant I needed something much more powerful to help me heal.
Narcissistic abuse creates some of the most frustrating emotional issues.
Narcissistic parents don’t see their children a little living, breathing human beings. They see children as objects and tools they can use to further whatever their twisted agenda may be.
Narcissistic mothers don’t understand this one very true fact. We don’t come from our parents; we come through them. We are sent here from the universe, and a mother’s womb is the vessel.
So if this vessel is broken and damaged beyond repair, you don’t stick around trying to fix it. You crashed landed here for a reason, and it’s not to fix a broken vessel. It’s not your job or your duty to fix her. You didn’t create the vessel, and you didn’t break it, so how could you possibly fix it?
I know she loves to blame you and make it your fault she’s broken, but someone damaged her long before you were sent to this world. You were sent here to even the score, and I’ve found a way for you to do just that. It’s time to take your power back.
Narcissistic and emotionally unavailable parents make life incredibly difficult and confusing.
Narcissistic mothers take a perfect, lovable, joyful child and try to recreate a being in their own perversely twisted and flawed image. You were sent here as a perfect little being, and she does everything in her power to corrupt and destroy that. And no, we don’t really know why thus, the term “disorder.”
The audacity is what’s astonishing.
The narcissistic mother doesn’t see her children as a gift from above; she sees them as property; she sees them as objects. Her wish is to create a human being just like herself, and unfortunately for her, that’s not how the universe works. There are no copies. Trying to make your child just like you is the ultimate mistake.
Now that’s the extreme. Then we have the emotionally unavailable parent. They can be so wrapped up in their own pain and anguish it’s impossible for them to be present. It’s not rocket science that traumatized children become traumatized adults. Unfortunately, it doesn’t get addressed until later in life, and to be fair, twenty years ago, we didn’t have the same healing methods we have today.
Continuing to talk about narcissistic abuse and other childhood emotional issues becomes redundant.
Talking about your pain every week or month over and over again keeps that pain front and center all the time. You keep revisiting, reviewing, and reliving it. We continue to feed the trauma and the negative feelings.
A parent can implant negative feelings deep into your subconscious because you love them and trust them more than anyone else in the universe.
The more you try to come to terms with it on a conscious level, the more the subconscious becomes less engaged. The subconscious mind controls 95% of all actions and behaviors, so now you begin to understand why this can’t be fixed on a conscious level. The conscious mind has very little to do with what you’re experiencing.
Being abused by a narcissistic parent leaves imprints on the subconscious mind that forms and controls all the beliefs you have about yourself. When I got into life coaching, it was a great experience, and I grew so much from it, but I quickly realized it wasn’t enough.
Life coaching takes a long time; traditional therapy takes a really long time because it’s all done on a conscious level.
By ‘really long time,’ I mean four to seven years. If you’re like me, then you’ve already tried some of these things. I’ve been trying to heal from narcissistic abuse my entire adult life. That’s over twenty years of searching for answers, and the first fifteen years don’t even count because I had no idea what I was trying to heal from.
Then (because the universe is with me), I found Marisa Peer. She is the creator of (RTT) Rapid Transformational Therapy.
What is the definition of RTT?
Rapid Transformational Therapy- a powerful hybrid method that gets to the root cause of why we may feel stuck. It is a method that combines the most effective techniques from NLP, CBT, hypnotherapy, and psychotherapy with the ability to transform lives powerfully and permanently. During a session, we uncover the negative meaning/interpretation of (self beliefs) from previous life events and then change that meaning/interpretation (self beliefs) to ones that are positive and empowering. A personalized recording is created to rewire the subconscious mind for fast, effective, and long-term change.
Marisa is absolutely brilliant. I don’t know how she did it, but she decided to share her work and training intuitive men and women to carry on her work after more than thirty years of experience.
And I’m thrilled to tell you that I have been accepted into this group. If you book a session with me now, I have a limited-time offer of $50 off for a personal session. Please sign up to my email list so I can contact you about free group sessions too.
How did I get accepted into the RTT program?
I told her I wanted to help people like me, adults raised by narcissistic parents. She opened all the doors for me because the one thing that makes a great therapist or practitioner of any kind is personal experience with pain and suffering.
Same as with addiction, anxiety, or weight loss, you don’t go to someone who’s never had these issues. How would they know how to help?
You should never take advice from someone who’s never done what you’re trying to do. People like you and me can’t afford to waste any more time on bad advice.
For example, going to a medical doctor for emotional issues will not help you solve anything. It can mask it, but it’s still there. Now you’re hooked on medication for the rest of your life because a band-aid is better than nothing when you’re bleeding all over the place. When you’re dealing with a mother wound, a band-aid is a temporary reprieve and nothing more. It always comes back; it won’t be ignored.
Because of this, I was, of course, skeptical, but again I’ll try anything to see if it works. RTT works; it’s a permanent fix because once the mind understands something, it can never go back to its previous state. You were a child when all this happened to you, and RTT lets you see the truth with your adult mind.
When it comes to narcissistic abuse, it is not your fault, and you are not to blame. Your only problem is proving it to yourself, and there’s a solution for that.
Life coaching and RTT together is a life-changing combination.
This is a permanent change, and the RTT cuts the life coaching down to a few sessions vs. a year minimum.
After two RTT sessions, my insomnia was gone. I woke up one day and realized how well I was sleeping. I have zero sleep issues now; I sleep all through the night, and make no mistake, insomnia is a sign of a very disturbed mind. I had a very disturbed mind, and I spent those late nights building this blog. I don’t write as often anymore because I’ve been side-tracked by my certification and licensing.
The thing is, nobody gets anywhere without help. I know you’ve already spent a significant amount of time trying to deal with things by yourself because I tried it for years. If you read some of my older posts, you know I was going through hard times. Nothing worked for me, and all other healing methods have failed me when it comes to being an adult raised by a narcissist.
The self-doubt you’re experiencing every single day of your existence, the constant questioning of every decision you make… gone after one session. I could not shake that self-doubt to save my soul. It was embedded in me and in my life like an emotional disability, and I got that from my father, who was also emotionally unavailable.
I’m okay now. The worst is gone, and it keeps getting better every day. You continue to heal and improve every single day, and I want to give you a jump start. I want to help your mind go from “my mother doesn’t love me” to “my mother can’t love me, and I understand now.” I want to help you believe in yourself and love yourself in a way a narcissist mother will never understand. She can’t give you what she doesn’t have.
This article made me so mad today…
I read another article telling people like you and me that we will always have the self-doubt, and we will, forever, until death, second guess every thought or decision we make. THE “THEY’S” ARE DEAD WRONG. Do not buy into this crap, do not believe that whatever symptoms you’re experiencing from narcissistic abuse can’t be fixed. There are answers out there. There are way more resources now and some really smart people who have already figured it out.
RTT helped me, my friends, my husband, and my kids, and they were only doing it to play along. They did not expect it to work, but everyone is sleeping better. I even helped my husband quit smoking, and it was my first time ever using RTT on someone.
It works even if you’re bad at it! You have to experience this to understand how powerful and effective it is.
You’re probably wondering why we can’t use RTT and fix the narcissist?
Well, Marisa’s method does have a 95% success rate, but she doesn’t work with narcissists, schizophrenics, or people who have psychosis.
Narcissists don’t think there’s anything wrong with them, and they don’t want a deeper understanding. Some people are two-pint people, and people like us are ten-gallon people. There’s no depth to a two-pint person. And yes, I know the saying is a ten-pint and ten-gallon person, but two pints are generous when you’re dealing with a narcissist.
If you’ve been abused by a narcissistic parent, I am living proof that RTT works to help you heal. It is the answer we’ve been looking for, and it is a permanent lifelong cure for the symptoms of narcissistic abuse.
I hope this post helps to at least point you in the right direction, and you will consider using hypnotherapy to help you sort out your subconscious.
Trying to heal from narcissistic abuse with your conscious mind will drive you mad.
I feel like I’ve gone insane at least twice trying to figure this out because it makes no sense on a conscious level. I just couldn’t get there, I kept running into mental blocks, and some unexplainable force would sabotage me at every turn.
There are tons of free self-hypnosis guides on YouTube. They can’t help you get to the core issues and root cause like RTT can in a personal session, but they do help. Glen Harrold is one of my favorite self-hypnosis guides, the recordings are generic and designed for everyone, but they’re high quality, and it will help ease your mind and relax your body.
There is a cure for the symptoms of narcissistic abuse, and after reading this, you are one step closer to finding the answers and solutions you’re looking for… and yes, the answers are all in your head. You just have to know how to access them.
It’s tough trying to recover from this and straighten it out on your own. That’s the hard way.
(RTT) Rapid Transformational Therapy and Uncompromised Life with Marisa Peer is a lifeline for you. A personal session with an RTT Practitioner is like ten years of traditional therapy in an hour and a half. You can check out my homepage for more information and sign up for a session.