Trying to heal from narcissistic abuse and emotional issues by talking and journaling doesn’t work for long-term permanent healing. How do I know that? Because I’ve written this entire blog trying to heal from narcissist abuse. I’ve journaled, I’ve talked about it all day long, every day, and I tried that for years. In the beginning, talking, researching, and educating yourself about emotional issues is necessary and does help to a point, but then you’re still stuck. And there’s nowhere else to go with it.
After you’ve done in-depth and almost obsessive research, you have an idea of what abuse is and a definition of what happened to you, but it doesn’t heal the wounds.
The reason talking doesn’t work is because you can’t sort this out on a conscious level. The harder you try to sort it out with your conscious mind, the less it works. As an RTT Hypnotherapist, I’ve come to understand narcissistic mothers can’t give what they don’t have, and that means we didn’t get a regular set of life skills.
Most of the time, we feel like we’ve been left in the dark. You feel like you’re different than everyone else, not good enough, or as though what comes easily to other people isn’t available to you.
Narcissistic abuse creates some of the most frustrating emotional issues.
Narcissistic parents don’t see their children a little living, breathing human beings. Instead, they see children as objects and tools they can use to further whatever their twisted agenda may be.
Narcissistic mothers don’t understand this one very true fact. We don’t come from our parents; we come through them. We are sent here from the universe. And if you want to get real deep, ladies, your uterus is a portal that brings beings into this world, and it’s also your source of personal power.
So let me ask you this… if you bring a child into this world, do you expect that child to fix you and emotionally support you? You’re probably thinking, uh, no. Well, this is exactly what a narcissistic mother thinks, and most of their thinking is completely backward.
I know she loves to blame you and make it your fault she’s broken, but someone damaged her long before you were sent to this world. You were sent here to even the score, and I’ve found a way for you to do just that. It’s time to take your power back.
Narcissistic and emotionally unavailable parents make life incredibly difficult and confusing.
Narcissistic mothers take a perfect, lovable, joyful child and try to recreate a being in their own perversely twisted and flawed image. You were sent here as a perfect little being, and she does everything in her power to corrupt and destroy that. And no, we don’t really know why thus, the term “disorder.”
The audacity is what’s astonishing.
The narcissistic mother doesn’t see her children as a gift from above; she sees them as property and objects. Her wish is to create a human being just like herself, and unfortunately for her, that’s not how the universe works. There are no copies. Trying to make your child just like you is the ultimate mistake.
Now that’s the extreme. Then we have the emotionally unavailable parent. They can be so wrapped up in their own pain and anguish it’s impossible for them to be present. It’s not rocket science that traumatized children become traumatized adults. But, unfortunately, it doesn’t get addressed until later in life, and to be fair, twenty years ago, we didn’t have the same healing methods we have today.
Continuing to talk about narcissistic abuse and other childhood emotional issues becomes redundant.
Talking about your pain every week or month over and over again keeps that pain front and center all the time. You keep revisiting, reviewing, and reliving it. So we continue to feed the trauma and the negative feelings.
A parent can implant negative feelings deep into your subconscious because you love them and trust them more than anyone else in the universe.
The more you try to come to terms with it on a conscious level, the more the subconscious becomes less engaged. The subconscious mind controls 95% of all actions and behaviors, so now you begin to understand why this can’t be resolved on a conscious level. The conscious mind has very little to do with what you’re experiencing.
Being abused by a narcissistic parent leaves imprints on the subconscious mind that form and control your beliefs about yourself. When I got into life coaching, it was a great experience, and I grew so much from it, but I quickly realized it wasn’t enough.
Life coaching takes a long time; traditional therapy takes a really long time because it’s all done on a conscious level.
By ‘really long time,’ I mean four to seven years. If you’re like me, then you’ve already tried some of these things. I’ve been trying to heal from narcissistic abuse my entire adult life. That’s over twenty years of searching for answers, and the first fifteen years don’t even count because I had no idea what I was trying to heal from.
Then (because the universe is with me), I found Marisa Peer. She is the creator of (RTT) Rapid Transformational Therapy.
What is the definition of RTT?
Rapid Transformational Therapy- a powerful hybrid method that gets to the root cause of why we may feel stuck. It is a method that combines the most effective techniques from NLP, CBT, hypnotherapy, and psychotherapy with the ability to transform lives powerfully and permanently. During a session, we uncover the negative meaning/interpretation of (self-beliefs) from previous life events and then change that meaning/interpretation (self-beliefs) to ones that are positive and empowering. A personalized recording is created to rewire the subconscious mind for fast, effective, and long-term change.
Marisa is absolutely brilliant. I don’t know how she did it, but she decided to share her work and train intuitive men and women to carry on her work after more than thirty years of experience.
And I’m thrilled to tell you that I have been accepted into this group. You can find out more or book a session with me using this link to my homepage.
How did I get accepted into the RTT program?
I told her I wanted to help people like me, adults raised by narcissistic parents. She opened all the doors for me because the one thing that makes a great therapist or practitioner of any kind is a personal experience with pain and suffering.
Same as with addiction, anxiety, or weight loss, you don’t go to someone who’s never had these issues. How would they know how to help?
You should never take advice from someone who’s never done what you’re trying to do. People like you and me can’t afford to waste any more time on bad advice.
For example, going to a medical doctor for emotional issues will not help you solve anything. It can mask it, but it’s still there. Now you’re hooked on medication for the rest of your life because a band-aid is better than nothing when you’re bleeding all over the place. When you’re dealing with a mother wound, a band-aid is a temporary reprieve and nothing more. It always comes back; it won’t be ignored.
Because of this, I was, of course, skeptical, but again I’ll try anything to see if it works. RTT worked the first time; it’s a permanent fix because once the mind understands something, it can never go back to its previous state. You were a child when all this happened to you, and RTT lets you see the truth with your own adult mind. After doing individual sessions for over a year now, I can assure you you’re not going to find anything bad about yourself; we are all innocent children.
I was terrified of what I might find inside my head. Terrified, I would discover my mother was right, and I really was the bad child she labeled me as, but none of that happened. The insight and understanding you get from an RTT session will completely change the way you feel about yourself and the way you see yourself.
When it comes to narcissistic abuse, it is not your fault, and you are not to blame. The only problem is proving it to yourself, and there is finally a solution for that.
One RTT session will fix way more than you expect.
About two weeks after my first session, my insomnia was gone, and the session had nothing to do with that. I woke up one day and realized how well I was sleeping. I have zero sleep issues now; suddenly, I was sleeping all through the night, and make no mistake; insomnia is a sign of a very disturbed mind. I had a very disturbed mind, and I spent those late nights building this blog.
We’re not the kind of people who ask for help. Growing up, there was no help available. We learned to do the best we could on our own. I don’t think it even occurred to me to ask for help because I didn’t know what kind of “help” to ask for. It’s confusing, but I’m sure you understand.
The thing is, nobody gets anywhere without help. I know you’ve already spent a significant amount of time trying to deal with things by yourself because I tried it for years. If you read some of my older posts, you know I was going through hard times. Nothing worked for me, and all other healing methods have failed me when it comes to being an adult raised by a narcissist.
The self-doubt you’re experiencing every single day of your existence, the constant questioning of every decision you make… gone after one session. I could not shake that self-doubt to save my soul. It was embedded in me and in my life like an emotional disability, and I got that from my father, who was also emotionally unavailable.
I’m okay now. The worst is gone, and it keeps getting better every day. You continue to heal and improve every single day, and I want to give you a jump start. I want to help your mind go from “my mother doesn’t love me” to “my mother can’t love me, and I understand now.” I want to help you believe in yourself and love yourself in a way a narcissistic mother will never understand. She can’t give you what she doesn’t have.
This article made me so mad today…
I read another article telling people like you and me that we will always have the self-doubt, and we will, forever until death, second-guess every thought or decision we make. THE “THEY’S” ARE DEAD WRONG. Do not buy into this crap, do not believe that whatever symptoms you’re experiencing from narcissistic abuse can’t be fixed. There are answers out there. There are way more resources now and some really smart people who have already figured it out.
RTT helped me, my friends, my husband, and my kids, and they were only doing it to play along. They did not expect it to work, but everyone is sleeping better. I even helped my husband quit smoking, and it was my first time ever using RTT on someone.
It works even if you’re bad at it! You have to experience this to understand how powerful and effective it is.
You’re probably wondering why we can’t use RTT and fix the narcissist?
Well, Marisa’s method does have a 95% success rate, but she doesn’t work with narcissists, schizophrenics, or people who have psychosis.
Narcissists don’t think there’s anything wrong with them, and they don’t want a deeper understanding. Some people are two-pint people, and people like us are ten-gallon people. There’s no depth to a two-pint person. And yes, I know the saying is a ten-pint and ten-gallon person, but two pints is generous when you’re dealing with a narcissist.
If you’ve been abused by a narcissistic parent, I am living proof that RTT works to help you heal. It is the answer we’ve been looking for, and it is a permanent lifelong solution for all the emotional issues that come with it.
Trying to heal from narcissistic abuse with your conscious mind will drive you mad.
I feel like I’ve gone insane at least twice trying to figure this out because it makes no sense on a conscious level. I just couldn’t get there, I kept running into mental blocks, and some unexplainable force would sabotage me at every turn.
There are tons of free self-hypnosis guides on YouTube. They can’t help you get to the core issues and root cause like RTT can in a personal session, but they do help. Glen Harrold is one of my favorite self-hypnosis guides, the recordings are generic and designed for everyone, but they’re high quality, and will help ease your mind and relax your body.
There is a way to get relief and heal from the symptoms of narcissistic abuse, and after reading this, you are one step closer to finding the answers and solutions. Please read this post for more information about the pricing and cost of an RTT session.
It’s tough trying to recover from this and straighten it out on your own. That’s the hard way. If you’d like to know more about the RTT sessions to help you recover from narcissistic abuse, you can read more here or visit my homepage.
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Post like this and narcissistic support groups are no substitute for therapy.