Not everyone heals from narcissistic abuse the same way or at the same pace.
Support groups for narcissistic abuse recovery are a great way to read other people’s stories and understand what narcissistic abuse does to a person.
I knew nothing in the beginning, and these groups helped me sort it all out.
Unfortunately, after about six months (and getting over the initial shock), I realized it wasn’t enough.
These groups have limitations, and they can only take you so far.
Eventually, you outgrow them, or you need to switch them up since they can get repetitive and overwhelming.
Some of these stories hit so close to home it can be triggering and retraumatizing.
You don’t have to keep doing that to yourself, and when you’re ready, it’s okay to move on.
Everyone needs variety in their life, and these groups can be more of the same, day in and day out.
Sometimes people get stuck when they don’t seek out different kinds of narcissistic abuse recovery.
They start to think there’s no way out because they lose perspective and don’t have a mentor to help pull them out.
I didn’t want to be a victim anymore.
Once you start to understand and outgrow narcissistic abuse, you don’t want to stay in it; you want out.
You didn’t come this far only to come this far.
I wanted out, and that means clear to the other side of the universe.
Facebook and YouTube probably won’t get you there.
Support groups for narcissistic abuse recovery are not for everyone.
- Some of the stories are pretty graphic, and you can easily retraumatize yourself sending your anxiety through the roof for days.
- Online groups also have rules, and the conversations allowed are limited.
- You have to be more careful online about what you say and how you say it when everything is censored and public.
- People disagree and get into arguments about things that don’t even matter, but these are hurt people, and they will lash out.
If you feel like sharing your story, write to me in the comments section below, and I promise not to censor you in any way.
Writing your thoughts helps everyone who reads them build strength because finding people to connect with about narcissistic abuse isn’t easy.
The narcissistically abused struggle to fit in.
When only 10% of the population has had any experience with narcissistic abuse, it’s difficult to find people who can relate.
They don’t understand.
I have a wonderful and supportive husband who can see my pain, but he can’t relate to it.
Sometimes when I’m talking to him, I can tell he’s confused because narcissistic abuse is nothing if not confusing.
Narcissists don’t make any damn sense.
There are so many twists and turns it’s almost impossible to understand this kind of abuse unless you’ve been through it.
You get the validation you deserve from people who’ve experienced the same thing, and support groups are a great place to start.
However, when you’ve been narcissistically abused your whole life or for an extended period of time, there’s way more going on internally.
As you dig deeper, you find your true self, and it’s painful to realize how horribly you’ve been mistreated.
There’s no way to understand why a person would do something like this to another human being.
The confusion and despair are all part of the narcissist’s plan to keep you under their control.
Yes, they do it on purpose, and no, it doesn’t make any sense.
We’ll never be able to understand the chaotic mind of a narcissist, but you can understand yours and undo the damage they cause.
Narcissistic abuse recovery is not the same for everyone.
What works for someone else may not work for you, so I decided to try everything, and sure enough, I found other methods that worked better for me.
In the beginning, I needed to be around people who understood what I was going through.
I needed to connect with people who’ve gotten to the other side of this nightmare.
When you figure out what methods work best for you, you’ll outgrow narcissistic abuse faster.
Support groups for narcissistic abuse recovery can slow the process down by keeping you stuck.
People give terrible advice, and most of it is usually two things:
- Get therapy
- Go no contact
Well, not everyone is open to therapy or ready to go no contact.
Going no contact with a narcissist is a process, and I get the impression that some people think they have to go no contact because that’s what the group says, not because it’s what they’re ready to do.
They are other alternatives and ways to handle a narcissist since they’re so predictable.
According to experts like Dr. Ramani, there are four levels of narcissism, ranging from narcissistic tendencies to full-on narcissistic personality disorder.
Seven different kinds of self-help for narcissistic abuse recovery:
Take a break from social media, especially if you’re getting anxious or depressed after reading the posts. These groups don’t have all the answers, and many times it can make you feel worse. In this article, a woman was depressed and feeling suicidal, and the admin told her to go ahead and kill herself. Unbelievable.
Life Coaching is all the rage these days, and right now, I’m studying at Robbin-Madanes training to be a life coach to learn how to help myself. This stuff works, you reassess the situation and build a bridge so you can move on, move forward, and stop staying stuck.
Self-Hypnosis is one of the most effective tools I use. Narcissistic abuse causes incredibly negative thinking, depression, and self-worth issues that are deep in the subconscious. Self-Hypnosis helps me sleep, build confidence, believe in myself, and then I feel like I can take on the world. Positive reinforcement is powerful stuff.
Connecting with my inner child helped me to heal faster than I thought I could. Use meditation or yoga to clear your chakras and center yourself. If you’ve been narcissistically abused, your inner child has been severely neglected, and a little bit of work here can change things dramatically. It’s where your joy lives.
Self-help books like Practicing The Power Of Now completely changed my perception of the world. When you’ve been abuse by a narcissist, it changes your view of the world and makes it a much darker place. Come back into the light where you can grow and feel better by connecting with your highest intent.
Therapy isn’t always affordable or desirable, but today there is another option that’s becoming more popular because of its privacy and convenience. You can get professional Online-Therapy from home, and you don’t even have to show your face.
Start an anonymous mental health blog and share your journey. Creating this blog and journaling my way through has helped me the most. It helps you process, dig deep, and unravel all the lies. Click here for a step by step guide on how to get started.
Give yourself time. I was narcissistically abused for over three decades, and it doesn’t take decades to recover. It does take a few years, and you want to give yourself that time, but don’t plan on staying there forever.
Narcissistic abuse can also be the cause of severe anxiety and panic attacks.
When you suffer from anxiety and panic attacks, it’s exhausting mentally, physically, and emotionally.
Then on top of that, it affects the quality of your sleep, which makes things even worse.
If this sounds like you here’s something new you might want to consider trying.
It’s called Panic Away, and it’s not a pill you take.
It’s about understanding the panic loop and why many times therapy fails to help you get lasting results.
Panic Away was created by Barry McDonagh after he suffered for years with anxiety and panic attacks.
Everything he tried was unsuccessful, so he decided to take matters into his own hands and found a way to end the panic loop cycle.
It has a reasonable price point ($67 for the full digital program), and the results speak for themselves.
He also has an interesting book called Scardies Away for kids.
Narcissists are insane, and there is no cure.
- No amount of therapy can help them.
- They can’t love.
- They don’t have the ability to grow.
Anything that can’t grow shouldn’t exist in this world.
It goes against the laws of nature.
I have never seen anything that lives and doesn’t grow, expect a narcissist.
Growth requires empathy, compassion, and understanding.
The narcissist lacks all of these things, so healing and growth are impossible.
Their growth came to a complete full stop at a very young age, and they are incapable of developing beyond that point.
No matter what transpires, they always revert back to their original state, so when you start to outgrow them, they won’t understand what’s happening, and that’s when they begin to panic.
No one is more viciously manipulative than a narcissistic parent who’s losing control of their child’s mind.
Narcissistic abuse recovery is different for everyone.
The cold hard truth is not everyone will fully recover from the narcissistic abuse they’ve endured.
We can’t undo a lifetime of abuse.
We can’t get even for a lifetime of abuse, and our only chance is to reparent ourselves.
Undoing the bulk of that damage is no small feat.
You think going no contact means everything will be fine, but once you’re in a safe environment, your body, mind, and soul want to heal.
When you’re narcissistically abused, there’s no time to heal in between blows.
Healing and growth can be very painful.
The only way to do it is to go through it.
There are no shortcuts, you can’t go over it or around it, so stay the course, and you will get to the other side.
I didn’t know or believe there was this “other side,” but it does exist, and it feels like freedom.